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Essentially, first touch--not
only the first moment of physical touch, but the touch
that the infant receives at the beginning of his or her
life--is the single most influential factor that will
determine a future life of love, or one of unlove. ...First
touch is that important."
--Mariana Caplan, author of "The Untouched:
Need for Genuine Affection in an Impersonal World "
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Wearing a baby is convenient.
When we carry a baby in a sling, we can walk around freely
and not have to worry about negotiating steps, crowds
or narrow aisles with a stroller. Plastic "baby buckets"
and removable car seats are heavy and awkward for parents,
babies often look uncomfortable, and they are kept at
knee level. A sling can block out excess stimuli when
breastfeeding a distractible baby, and it allows for discreet
nursing in public places. A sling can also double as a
changing pad, blanket, or cushion when away from home.
I’ve found my sling especially handy when negotiating
busy airports with a small child and several bags!
Wearing
a baby promotes physical development.
When a baby rides in a sling attached to his mother, he
is in tune with the rhythm of her breathing, the sound
of her heartbeat, and the movements his mother makes –
walking, bending, and reaching. This stimulation helps
him to regulate his own physical responses, and exercises
his vestibular system, which controls balance. The sling
is in essence a "transitional womb" for the
new baby, who has not yet learned to control his bodily
functions and movements. Research has shown that premature
babies who are touched and held gain weight faster and
are healthier than babies who are not1. Mechanical swings
and other holding devices do not provide these same benefits.
Babies
worn in slings are happier.
Studies have shown that the more babies are held, the
less they cry and fuss2. In indigenous cultures where
baby-wearing is the norm, babies often cry for only a
few minutes a day – in contrast to Western babies,
who often cry for hours each day. Crying is exhausting
for both the baby and his parents, and may cause long-term
damage as the baby’s developing brain is continually
flooded with stress hormones.3 Babies who do not need
to spend their energy on crying are calmly observing and
actively learning about their environment. Baby-wearing
is especially useful for colicky or "high need"
babies, who are far happier being worn, but placid, content
babies and children will also benefit greatly from the
warmth and security of being held close.
Baby-wearing
is healthy for you!
It can be challenging for new mothers to find time to
exercise, but if you carry your baby around with you most
of the day or go for a brisk walk with your baby in her
sling, you will enjoy the dual benefits of walking and
"weightlifting". A long walk in the sling is
also an excellent way to help a tired but over-stimulated
child fall asleep.
Toddlers
appreciate the security of the sling.
Slings are usually associated with infants, but they can
be very useful for toddlers as well; most slings accommodate
children up to 35 or 40 pounds. The world can be a scary
place for toddlers, who feel more confident when they
can retreat to the security of the sling when they need
to do so. Toddlers often become over-stimulated, and a
ride in the sling helps to soothe and comfort them before
(or after!) a "melt-down" occurs. It can be
very helpful in places like the zoo, aquarium, or museum,
where a small child in a stroller would miss many of the
exhibits.
Baby-wearing
helps you and your baby to communicate with each other.
The more confidence we have in our parenting, the more
we can relax and enjoy our children. A large part of feeling
confident as a parent is the ability to read our baby’s
cues successfully. When we hold our baby close in a sling,
we become finely attuned to his gestures and facial expressions.
Many baby-wearing parents report that they have never
learned to distinguish their baby’s cries –
because their babies are able to communicate effectively
without crying! Every time a baby is able to let us know
that she is hungry, bored or wet without having to cry,
her trust in us is increased, her learning is enhanced,
and our own confidence is reinforced. This cycle of positive
interaction enhances the mutual attachment between parent
and child, and makes life more enjoyable for everyone.
Slings
are a bonding tool for fathers, grandparents, and other
caregivers. 
Slings are a useful tool for every adult in a baby’s
life. It makes me smile when I see a new father going for
a walk with his baby in a sling. The baby is becoming used
to his voice, heartbeat, movements and facial expressions,
and the two are forging a strong attachment of their own.
Fathers don’t have the automatic head-start on bonding
that comes with gestation, but that doesn’t mean they
can’t make up for this once their baby is born. The
same goes for babysitters, grandparents and all other caregivers.
Cuddling up close in the sling is a wonderful way to get
to know the baby in your life, and for the baby to get to
know you!
Slings
are a safe place for a child to be.
Instead of running loose in crowded or dangerous places,
a child in a sling is held safe and secure right next to
your body. Slings also provide emotional safety when needed,
so that children can venture into the world and become independent
at their own pace.
Slings are economical.
Slings cost far less than strollers, front-carriers or backpacks.
Many mothers consider the sling to be one of their most
useful and economical possessions. Inexpensive used slings
can be found in consignment and thrift stores, and new ones
can be bought for about $25 -$50 (U.S.) - not bad for an
item many parents use daily for two years or more!
Baby-wearing
is fun.
Who doesn’t love to cuddle a precious little baby?
And when your baby is older, having her in the sling makes
conversations easier and allows you to observe her reactions
to the wonders of the world around her. It’s also
fun for baby, because when she is up at eye level, other
adults notice and interact with her more. Your child will
feel more a part of your life when she is in her sling,
and you will find yourself becoming more and more enchanted
with this special little person.
--Laura Simeon, MA, MLIS
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